Looking For The Sign To Change Your Life
A chapter in my life closed recently and while it seemed it was an easy decision to make to outside observers. It required a lot of thought and energy to make the right decision for me.
I always felt it was better to give more of myself to help other people become better versions of themselves.
It has been lovely over the years to see people come from terrible situations to find themselves and become free of all the burdens they held on to for so long.
Being involved in helping people recover and find peace in their minds, took a lot of my time, away from my family.
Become Aware Of Your Time
I did not realise how much it would affect my business and my family life until a conversation with my son opened a thought process that would lead to ultimate change.
It was the week of my sons birthday and I was scheduled to be volunteering at the local centre as the person who would normally present had the evening off.
I was busy with work when I realised it was going to be my son’s birthday in two days’ time.
Changes Come In All Forms
I phoned the local centre to let them know it was my son’s birthday on the day I was scheduled to volunteer, and I updated the Facebook page to let people know the evening had been cancelled.
We went out for dinner on his birthday and my phone rang, I answered to find that people still went to the centre as they had not gotten the notifications that it had been cancelled.
I spoke to the person to let them know I wouldn’t be able to attend and the conversation ended with people slightly annoyed.
I can understand if you have taken a journey to get somewhere to find the event has been called off can be annoying.
Listen To The Small Voices
Coming home after dinner as we were walking back from the car my son asked me why I spent so much time helping other people.
I explained why I enjoyed it and I asked him what he thought about it. He said he would not want to do it, as it would take him away from his family to much.
I was shocked to see it from his perspective. I spoke to my daughter about it and while she didn’t have the exact same feelings there was a consensus that I was spending too much time volunteering.
I thought about it over the Christmas period and I came to a decision that I would invest the time in my children where I still have time to make a positive impact on their lives.
Making the change
I would still love to help people, but it would have to move online as it would be easier to manage and structure.
We had a family meeting and we spoke about the new plan and decided that we would do more things together as a family.
That confirmed my decision and on Monday, I made the call to withdraw from the community as a volunteer to spend that valuable time with my family instead.
Confronting myself and making the decision led to a new freedom within me. I had more time, I was happier and my routine returned to normal.
Sometimes you make tough decisions which affect people around you, but you should put yourself and your family first as they are the most important aspect of your life.
Volunteering has its highs and lows, but it can be a beautiful experience when you see people lives being transformed.
You need to make sure you do not give away too much of your personal time as you need to replenish your energy levels too.
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